ADD Books: Part I: Finding The Symptoms That Make You Say "Aha!"

I didn't forget about the promised science posts. It turns out they are a lot more complicated than I thought. I will get to them when I understand more about the science of the medicines. But for now, I want to write about some of the more anecdotal things. I have been doing a lot of reading both online and in books. One book that I plowed through today (skimming the parts that seemed less relevant to me, but reading most of the first 100 pages) is Driven to Distraction by Edward M. Hallowell and John J. Ratey, both doctors with ADD. (They chose to use ADD instead of ADHD because it is more inclusive since hyperactivity is not assumed). It is an easy read full of anecdotes but not skimpy on the real science. There is some of the laughing at ADD that I find annoying (like questions such as "did you have trouble reaching the end of this questionnaire), and some repetitive language that I suppose is helpful for people who read the book in more than two sittings, but mostly it is very well done.

I've found reading about ADD frustrating because often I don't fit the symptoms, and I find myself questioning the diagnosis and saying "this is not me". I have always done well in school. I am good at evaluating myself, and I am not really impulsive, for example. But Hallowell (the book is mostly in his voice) describes enough different cases that I have found symptoms close enough to mine, even though he suggests that someone with ADD would meet 15 of his 20 symptoms where I barely meet 12 of them.

There was one patient he wrote about, Sarah (pages 94-101) an adult with ADD, whose symptoms made me understand more about me and about some of the people in my life. I am just going to block quote here:

"Oh," she answered, "that is about a cough drop someone left on the dashboard of our car. The other day I saw the cough drop and thought, I'll have to throw that away. When I arrived at my first stop, I forgot to take the cough drop to a trash can. When I got back into the car, I saw it and thought, I'll throw it away at the gas station. The gas station came and went and I hadn't thrown the cough drop away. Well, the whole day went like that, the cough drop still sitting on the dashboard. When I got home, I thought, I'll take it inside with me and throw it out. In the time it tool for me to open the car door, I forgot about the cough drop. It was there to greet me when I got in the car the next morning. Jeff [her husband] was with me. I looked at the cough drop and bust into tears. Jeff asked me why I was crying , and I told him it was because of the cough drop. He thought I was losing my mind. 'But you don't understand,' I said, my whole life is like that. I see something that I mean to do, and then I don't do it. It's not only trivial things like the cough drop; it's big things too.' That's why I cried. "
It was such a classic ADD story that I've come to call it the cough-drop sign (Page 95).

This anecdote reminded me of myself in a lot of ways. Though I can't think of any specific incidents, it was familiar. But more importantly, it reminded me of someone I know, who is in her 50's (like Sarah in the story) and on occasion worries that she is developing Alzheimer's disease--like after she read a New York Times Magazine Lives column about Alzheimer's disease, or after she watched an episode of the West Wing where the White House Press Secretary C.J. Cregg spends time with her father who has Alzheimer's. But the symptoms she most worried about were most similar to the cough-drop symptom. Maybe it's not as scary as Alzheimer's. I bet it's ADD.

Sarah provided Hallowell with a whole list of things she thought were relevant that bothered her. Some of them did not apply to me at all. Other ones made my mouth drop in recognition. Those are below. I list them here, in a blog that is supposed to be more informational than personal, because I would never have associated them with ADD, but Hallowell did--calling Sarah's list something that "could serve as a pamphlet on adult ADD" (page 98)--and so I think others would be equally surprised at the links between the symptoms and between the symptoms and ADD.

I am going to list all the ones in Sarah's list that apply to me. Some are more surprising than others. I don't want to give the impression that I am a totally atypical person with ADD I have put stars and notes next to the ones I found jaw-dropping.

CAUTIONARY NOTE: This list makes me seem like a total space cadet. Most, if not all of these things DO NOT CONTROL MY LIFE. I have figured out how to work around them or to use them to my advantage. I am very successful and trustworthy. Also, I am NOT BLAMING ADD. Some of these are things that I am going to work out, ADD or not. It's just cool to see that they might be connected to one another. (There's my fear about someone figuring out who is writing this and using it against me).

With that out of the way, the list:

• "Daydreamed a lot in class as a child."
• "Have lots of ideas but have a hard time structuring things so they actually happen."
• "Desk cluttered."
• "Forgetful."
• "Difficult to walk in a straight line--tend to veer into things or people." *** (My friends used to make fun of me for this. I have one--very close--friend who used to see if he could edge me to the curb to see if I would walk into a telephone pole. It almost always worked. I had NO IDEA this could be ADD related).
  
• "Unless I am involved, usually get very sleepy during lectures.
• "Handwriting: sometimes I wrote things I don't mean to; skip letters or form them wrong." *(I have used this to my advantage in creative writing to come up with unique turns of phrase).
• "Lose what's in my head very easily."
• "Organize my life around projects"
• "Problems with lateness. Even when there is plenty of time, I fill it up and then cut things too close or lose track of time. I don't have a sense of passing time." * (I sometimes have a very acute sense of passing time. But sometimes I have no sense at all. I thought that I just loved working on tight deadlines, but this gave me a different perspective).
  
• "There is something inside that needs to change."* (This was something I just noticed this year as I started talking about ADD).
  
• "Doors and drawers--never close them after myself, then come back and see them and close them."* (I always got yelled at for this. It's cool to see how much of this might be related.
  
• "Get overwhelmed by a large confused mess."
• General problems with distractibility and disorganization."
  

That's a ton of descriptors that I thought matched my life. It was the first time I have actually felt the relief that everyone keeps saying comes with a diagnosis. It was the first time that I actually seriously considered taking meds. I will post soon on meds and fears about them, but I want to do that when I am more informed.